Do you have a toilet in your living room?
It’s been a long time since I posted here. Seems this is becoming my default location to bitch about everything social media. Yup… that’s what’s ahead…
I just went through my Facebook page and it seems that everyone I am connected with is clueless about twitter or LinkedIn or RSS feeds. My Facebook stream is clogged with updates on business crap. Conferences, blog posts, updates on buyouts and mergers. A quick count shows about 4-1 business to personal/fun.
Don’t get me wrong - each person I’ve allowed into my Facebook stream (and that’s what I do - allow you in… kinda like inviting you into my house) is someone I wanted to get to know on a personal level. Mostly because I got to know them in some professional vein - in real life at a conference, via their blog, through their twitter stream - whatever.
I got to know you most likely in a professional manner and thought …
“Hey - they were fun to talk to - I wonder what they’re like OUTSIDE OF WORK!”
I guess I’ll never know.
I Don’t Have A Sink In My Living Room
I have a normal house. Got a kitchen, a few bedrooms, living room, back porch. Couple of bathrooms. Nice little place - and I do specific things in each of those rooms. When we entertain we usually have some folks in the kitchen - some in the living room. Very few folks get to the bedrooms (unless it’s a particularly good party.) Rarely do I sleep on the porch and I rarely sleep on the couch in the living room.
See - I have rooms in my house that are designed around the functions they serve. Kitchen - food stuff - oven, sink, dishwasher, stove - designed for making stuff we eat, eating it and cleaning up the stuff we just ate.
Living room - TV, stereo, some comfy chairs - designed for conversation and relaxation.
Home office - computer, desk chair, task light - designed for writing, getting work done.
Bathroom - well - I won’t go into details.
See - each environment is designed around a function.
Facebook Now Has A Toilet In It
Unfortunately, I now have to walk around all the extraneous elements in my Facebook feed - all of you guests decided I needed a toilet in my living room. I didn’t want it. You put it there after I invited you into the house.
Facebook used to be a place I went to have casual, personal conversations about what up in people’s lives. What’s up with the kids? What’s with the extended fam? New pics of the puppy doing something cute with the cat. That’s what I wanted from you when we connected. That’s what I wanted out of Facebook.
Now I feel like I’m sitting across from a mahogany desk… being interviewed.
I’d like to limit your business updates in Facebook - but I’d have to eliminate all your updates. I can still mute services that automatically post to Facebook - but people are posting directly to their streams - and therefore I only have two choices… put up with their toilet in my living room… or kick them out of the house.
It’s getting real close to the latter.
Just Because You Can - Doesn’t Mean You Should
I could put a toilet in my living room. But just because I can doesn’t mean I should.
Please - think about how these various social media streams were initially designed. Just because they want to be the one - you don’t have to let them dictate how you use them. Just because you can post to your “friends” about your newest blog post - doesn’t mean you should. Why not put that in the business feed of LinkedIn - or at least use twitter where I can see it and then decide if I want to subscribe to your RSS or email updates.
And don’t tell me it’s profersonal - that’s crap. While we CAN meld those two lines it doesn’t mean we should. And - if I REALLY want to know you “profersonally” I’ll subscribe to your professional and your personal feeds and do the mixing myself.
Don’t force me.
Get off my lawn - and get your toilet out of my living room.